Ages 2–3

Tiny Manners, Big Hearts

Kindness is a habit we practice before we can spell it.

Toddlers build first manners — greeting, thanking, sharing, saying Bismillah — through warm daily rituals, while learning to sort and name their biggest feelings.

👨‍👩‍👧 For parents: Your child learns the first habits of a good heart — greeting, thanking, sharing, and naming big feelings — through warm daily rituals. These tiny manners become the character that carries them for life.
Ethics & Values (Akhlaq)Emotional IntelligenceCognitiveRole-playPlay-basedStorytelling

6 · 3 · 25weeks · sessions/week · min/session

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Learning objectives

  • Use a greeting (Salam) and a thank-you (Shukran) at the right moment. Ethics & Values (Akhlaq) · apply
  • Point to a face that matches how they feel right now. Emotional Intelligence · understand
  • Sort objects into two groups by one property (e.g. big / small). Cognitive · apply

Modules

The Salam Ritual

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Big idea: When I greet, I make someone happy.

🔬 Why this works: Habits form through warm repetition, not instruction (relationship-based infant-toddler care, Lally). A daily greeting ritual lets manners become identity — something the child is, not something they are told to do.

Spreading peace (Salam)The Prophet ﷺ taught us to spread Salam — even a smile is a gift. (Sahih Muslim)

Good Morning CircleRole-play · 8m

Each child greets the next with Salam and a chosen gesture.

▶ Show me how
  1. 🎭 Role-play Turn to your friend and say "Assalamu alaikum!" — wave or high-five.
    Facilitator cue: Model warmth; never force eye contact. Celebrate any attempt.
    Support: Greet them first and let them echo you; a wave alone counts.
    Stretch: Add the reply: "Wa alaikum assalam" back to a friend.
Greeting MatchRole-play · 8m

Toddlers match a kind greeting to the moment it fits.

▶ Show me how
  1. 🎯 Challenge We meet a friend — which greeting do we use?
    Facilitator cue: Model the warmth; a smile is half the greeting.
    Support: Offer two greetings and let them choose.
    Stretch: Say the greeting in your other language too.
  2. 🎭 Role-play Turn to a friend and try the greeting — wave or smile.
    Facilitator cue: Celebrate any attempt; never force eye contact.
    Support: Greet them first and let them echo you.
    Stretch: Add the kind reply back to your friend.

My Feelings Faces

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Big idea: My feelings have names.

🔬 Why this works: Affect labeling — putting a feeling into words — measurably calms the brain’s alarm centre (Lieberman, UCLA). Naming a feeling at age two lays the neural groundwork for lifelong self-regulation.

Happy, Sad, SleepyPlay-based · 10m

Match a felt-face to a feeling and act it out.

▶ Show me how
  1. 🌙 Reflect Which face is you today? Show me with your own face!
    Facilitator cue: Accept any answer without judging; mirror their face back warmly.
    Support: Offer two faces to choose between.
    Stretch: Ask what made the feeling come — a person, a moment?
  2. 💬 Discuss When we feel big feelings, we can say "Bismillah" and take a deep breath.
    Facilitator cue: Breathe with them, slowly, so calm is caught, not taught.
    Support: Put a hand on the belly to feel the breath rise and fall.
    Stretch: Name one thing that helps you feel calm again.
Show the FeelingPlay-based · 8m

Toddlers make a face for a feeling word and guess each other’s.

▶ Show me how
  1. 🎯 Challenge Can you make a happy face? Now a sleepy one?
    Facilitator cue: Mirror their face back; naming makes feelings smaller.
    Support: Make the face together in a mirror.
    Stretch: Show a feeling and let a friend name it.
  2. 💬 Discuss When we feel a big feeling, what tiny thing can help?
    Facilitator cue: Guide toward a breath, a hug, or saying Bismillah.
    Support: Offer one idea and try it together now.
    Stretch: Pick your own helper for next time.

Big idea: I can put things where they belong.

🔬 Why this works: Sorting by one attribute is a toddler’s first act of classification — the seed of logic and number (Piaget). Pairing it with a real act of sharing fuses cognitive and prosocial growth in one joyful move.

Big Bowl, Small BowlMontessori practical life · 10m

Sort toys by size, then share one with a friend.

▶ Show me how
  1. 🎯 Challenge Big things in the big bowl, small things in the small bowl. Ready?
    Facilitator cue: Let mistakes self-correct; ask "does it fit?" instead of fixing it.
    Support: Sort the first two together to show the idea.
    Stretch: Add a third group — or sort by colour instead of size.
  2. 🎭 Role-play Now give one to your friend and say "Tafaddal" (here you go).
    Facilitator cue: Name the kindness out loud: "You shared — that was generous!"
    Support: Hand the toy into their palm and say the word with them.
    Stretch: Let the friend say "Shukran" back, and notice how it feels.
Mine & OursMontessori practical life · 10m

Toddlers sort toys into "mine" and "for sharing", then share one.

▶ Show me how
  1. 🎯 Challenge Which things are just yours, and which can we all share?
    Facilitator cue: Honour that some things are theirs alone — sharing is a gift, not a rule.
    Support: Start with one clear "mine" and one clear "ours".
    Stretch: Find a thing we could take turns with.
  2. 🎭 Role-play Give one "for sharing" toy to a friend and say "Tafaddal".
    Facilitator cue: Name the kindness aloud: "You shared — how generous!"
    Support: Hand the toy into their palm and say the word together.
    Stretch: Notice how it felt to give — and to receive.

My Gentle Yes and No

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Big idea: My voice matters, and so does yours.

🔬 Why this works: Self-Determination Theory + emotion coaching (Gottman): honoring a child's "no" teaches that their voice counts — the earliest root of consent, agency, and respect for others. A child who is heard learns to hear.

Yes Please, No Thank YouRole-play · 10m

Toddlers practice a kind yes and a kind no, and a real choice.

▶ Show me how
  1. 🎭 Role-play Would you like a hug? You can say "Yes please" or "No thank you".
    Facilitator cue: Honor the "no" warmly and immediately. This is body autonomy — never override it for a lesson.
    Support: Offer the two phrases as a choice they can point to.
    Stretch: Offer a kinder alternative: "Maybe a high-five instead?"
  2. 🎯 Challenge Which song shall we sing? Point to your choice.
    Facilitator cue: Honor the choice even if it is the same song again; choosing is the lesson.
    Support: Hum two options so they can pick by sound.
    Stretch: Let them lead the others in the song they chose.
  3. 💬 Discuss A kind "no" is still kind. We can say no and still be friends.
    Facilitator cue: Model a gracious "no" with a warm face so it never reads as rejection.
    Support: Practice together: I say no, you stay friendly — then swap.
    Stretch: Recall a time someone said no to you — were you still friends?
Ask NicelyRole-play · 10m

Toddlers practise asking and answering kindly — yes, and a gentle no.

▶ Show me how
  1. 🎭 Role-play Ask a friend to play — using kind words and a kind voice.
    Facilitator cue: Practise the words aloud; kindness has a script worth rehearsing.
    Support: Give a sentence to borrow: "May I play too, please?"
    Stretch: What if the answer is "not now"? Try a kind reply.
  2. 💬 Discuss A kind "no" is still kind. How can we say no and stay friends?
    Facilitator cue: Honour the "no" warmly; this is the root of consent and respect.
    Support: Offer a gentle phrase: "No thank you — maybe later?"
    Stretch: Offer a kind alternative instead of just no.

Leadership we plant

  • 🌱 Uses a kind voice to say what he wants — and does not want.
  • 🌱 Respects another child's "no".

Research foundations

Self-Determination Theory — Deci & Ryan
Voice and choice build intrinsic motivation and self-respect.
In practice: Toddlers may decline politely and are always heard; daily small choices.
Emotion Coaching — John Gottman
Naming and accepting feelings — not suppressing them — builds regulation.
In practice: We label feelings aloud and pair big emotions with breath and Bismillah.

🏡 Try at home

The Salam Ritual · 5 min

Make a warm greeting a family habit — at the door, at breakfast. Model "Assalamu alaikum" and a smile; celebrate every attempt your child makes.

Feelings Weather · 5 min

At bedtime ask: "Is your heart sunny, cloudy, or stormy today?" Name the feeling together and take one calm breath saying Bismillah.

Standards alignment

CASEL — Social & Emotional Learning
Self-awareness & self-management
Naming feelings and early self-regulation strategies.
Head Start — Early Learning Outcomes Framework (ELOF)
Social & Emotional Development
Relationships, emotional expression, and prosocial behavior.
UK EYFS
Personal, Social & Emotional Development
Manners, sharing, and managing feelings through routine.

Value anchors

  • Generosity (Karam)The Prophet ﷺ was the most generous of people — we share to be like him. (Seerah)
  • Beginning with Bismillah

Everything you’ll need (home or school)

  • Felt feeling-faces, two sorting bowls, soft toys
  • Picture cards: morning, meeting a friend, saying goodbye
  • A few personal items and a few shared toys
🖨 Printable checklist

Assessment — observation

  • emerging: Imitates greetings when prompted.
  • developing: Greets and thanks with little help.
  • confident: Initiates kindness and names a feeling.

Future skills

Emotional regulationEmpathyCollaborationLogical reasoning
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